NomsaM: November 2011

Monday, 14 November 2011

We are here for a reason

This isn’t the easiest thing to do. To let it all out and admit to the world that you don’t have it all figured out – that you don’t have your life together. That maybe in fact, you’ve been pretending that everything was ok, but deep down you knew that it wasn’t.

Exposing yourself like this is probably one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do – to share yourself openly, freely and let the people close to you know how you really feel.

But you know what’s even harder? Pretending to be something you’re not. Pretending to be happy when you’re not. Pretending to be someone that you’re not. That takes so much more energy and effort.

For some reason we’ve been taught to work hard to succeed. And sometimes we confuse working hard with doing what we hate and that leaves us unfulfilled. Your job isn’t to do what you hate – it’s to contribute in a way that ignites you, that fills you with joy. You’ve got to find what you enjoy doing and do more of it.

This blog serves to remind me and those close to me that we are here to contribute and make the world a better place. Just because you don’t enjoy what you’re currently doing doesn’t give you a reason to do nothing. There is something that you’re here to do.

Babysitting

So, I’m chatting with a friend when I ask what she is currently doing. She tells me she is babysitting. Babysitting? I’m puzzled by this reply. I ask “who you babysitting?” and to my amusement she is babysitting her kids. This raised a question in me.

How are you babysitting your own children??? Is it not parenting when you are taking care of your own kids???

We have become selfish as human beings to the extent that we no longer even identify with our own God given responsibilities. We neglect that which has been given to us by God to nature. I am also guilty of this where I find myself passing on my responsibility of parenting to the nanny and school.

I think as young parents we need to start to have a look at ourselves and of how we are preparing the future leaders of our country, the future economists. What is it that we are investing in them precious little beings.

To this I say, we need to acknowledge parenting. When spending time with your kids you are not babysitting. You are parenting. Take pride in that for you are molding, nurturing the future. Let’s be more attentive of what we are giving back to the world out there.

Mshoza

Just had a look at the pictures of Mshoza. WOW! I am grossly wowed at it. yep, she done did it. She bleached herself from being a beautiful dark lady to something she would call “beautiful” closely resembling our all time legend Michael Jackson.

I keep wondering to myself, did she not see how our favorite Jackson looked at the end. Scary how we have become so obsessed with possession and money as human beings. We seem to to only want more, to be more beautiful, to be more powerful, to have the best of everything. Looking at her picture again I dismally fail in my attempt to place myself in her shoes to try and understand what on earth made her to come to such a decision. I can only blame the foolishness of youth.

I only wish she knew that youth is only but a phase and it shall pass, so does fashion and all this craziness of being beautiful and you are left with that which you have inside of you. That light inside of you is the one that moves you from one strength to another, from generation to generation. Its that genuine smile that makes you beautiful and makes a mark in the heart of others. It is your soul that touches us all.

Maya

Amazing how I have come to love another more than I sometimes believe I love myself. When its said people are a blessing, you have become something beyond that for me. To me you are a true reflection of God’s love to humanity.

I have learnt how to be a woman in your stride. In your stride of confidence in this journey of womanhood leaves me smiling and having a quirky laugh and giggle at the road I’m still to embark on of growing, aging, acquiring wisdom. When I look at you I am not afraid to grow. I know I will be wise, I know I will be strong, I know I will prosper. Surrounded by such love, beauty, patience, wisdom (the list goes on and on) and I have reason to believe beyond the benefit of any doubt that only the best lies ahead.

You are being loved for your gracefulness, your kindness, and most of all your love…

Oh dam, aren’t you a blessing!!

And am I blessed or what???

Keep inspiring J

The song: In the Arms of An Angel

Spend all your time waiting for that second chance
For the break that will make it ok
There's always some reason to feel not good enough

And it's hard at the end of the day
I need some distraction, oh beautiful release
Memories seep from my veins
They may be empty and weightless, and maybe
I'll find some peace tonight

In the arms of an Angel, fly away from here
From this dark, cold hotel room, and the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie
You're in the arms of an Angel; may you find some comfort here

So tired of the straight line, and everywhere you turn
There's vultures and thieves at your back
The storm keeps on twisting, you keep on building the lies
That you make up for all that you lack
It don't make no difference, escaping one last time
It's easier to believe
In this sweet madness, oh this glorious sadness
That brings me to my knees

In the arms of an Angel, far away from here
From this dark, cold hotel room, and the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie
In the arms of an Angel; may you find some comfort here

The first time I heard the song from the Movie City of Angels, it left me wondering why I would take life for granted, when there are people fighting to be alive. Yet in the song I find comfort that I cannot fear death, because I don’t know what awaits me. With that being said, I need not spend my life waiting for the day I depart from my flesh, but to enjoy the time that I am given. So that when my time comes, I have no fear, I have no unfinished business on this earth.

We have to live our lives truthfully and make the most of our lives and enjoy each day as if it was our last day.

Our children and technology

I am not sure what to make of today’s fast moving world. Technology has become part of our children’s lives. They live it and they breathe it. Amazing how we want them to know how to use these gargets, yet most of the times they come back to bite us.

Our children are too exposed to things we never thought they were ready to be exposed to. Watching a violent or explicit video has become such an issue. Almost every child is exposed to adult material way before their maturity time. I sit and wonder what this advancement does to the innocence of our time. I wonder if their childhood can be enjoyed to the fullest. I respect that times are different and technology is the new thing, but we still have the right to be concerned as parents. Many children have been killed because of this technology, because of their innocent minds.

Yes I want my sons not to be left behind in terms of technology, but it’s also my responsibility to yield them from any harm this technology poses to them.

Of all the forms of courage, the ability to laugh is the most relaxing.

They say laughter is the best medicine. Even kings and queens ages ago believed in having their own clowns to make them laugh. Even they realised the importance of laughter. Even at their time, they knew that laughing was an important part of life, hence they went through extremes of having special people to make them laugh. They would do anything in their power to make them laugh.

We don’t realise the beauty that is in laughing, how one glows when they laugh. The laughter of a poor child is the most wonderful laughter ever. For me it symbolises that no matter how challenging laugh might be, but this gift of laughing is what I pride myself with.

The courage to laugh through tough times is the hardest thing anyone can ever do, but people find themselves laughing though it is tough. Such people have mastered the art of living. Living is all about taking please smells the smallest of flowers, laughing like a little child being excited by the most simple of things. Yet they still find joy in what we see as being simple. Yet their beautiful laugh touches our heart to the point that we find ourselves laughing too.

The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood trauma

No matter the circumstances we can all rise above our past. Not all of us have had a rosy childhood; however we are all given the opportunity to make our own decisions later on in our lives.

We need to be brave and take charge of our lives, take our childhood traumas and turn them into victories. It is amazing how many famous have experienced abuse in their upbringing. So many people have had traumatic experiences, which would have easily traumatized them. It is important not to let one’s past experience destroy one’s future. Life is all about self-discovery and we need to know that things will happen, but through it all, we must never give up on life, no matter how traumatic our experiences are.

Be bold and shine, be the best you want to be. Take that bad experience and share it with those around you, your traumatic experience might just save someone’s life, give hope to a lost soul.

Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid

In life we have fears about trying new things and going places. We have fears of who we truly are, we fear the strength within, we would rather deal with our fears.

It is true that the universe only conspires to help us. It is only when we believe that things start happening to us. It is only when we look deep inside that we are shown who we truly are. The world views us the way we feel, the way we show them. The world draws our attitude from the way we are. So why cheat ourselves and not show the world how wonderful we are. Why not take the bold stand and be what you want the world to see in you.

There really is no need to be looked down on you, because the universe reflects who we really are and what we offer those around us. There is no point in acting all so small, be bold take that leap. Be that dancer you’ve always wanted to be, all you need to do is stay true to what you truly desire.

The last Lecture

One would have thought it would be just joy all the way for the last day of lecture. Strange enough, it is not so. It is sad to realize that we might not be seeing some people that we have come to know as our class mates. People we’ve laughed cried and stressed with over the years.

The last lecture is always filled with mixed emotions of people excited that finally the year is over, but also sadness that we won’t be laughing as we usually do. Life at school has become an escape for some of us. Sharing of ideas and the helping hand from our fellow classmates. Is an experience that can’t be explained to anyone.

The last lecture sums up the journey that we’ve travelled the journey of self discovery. We have learned so much from each other, from our different cultures to our unique ways of doing things. Sure it might not be the last lecture in our lives, but it sure is the last lecture with the people that we know.

Watch this space.

I’m on my way, there’s so much more where all that energy comes from. This girl is destined for bigger things.

This is not the last you see of her, she’s out there to make a difference. Don’t look down on her, for she’s a go getter. You just watch the space and see what she has in store for you. Ohh heard people say, there she goes, all in her dreadlocks, wonder what she has to offer. Oh my all to your surprise she’s dynamite. Listen to her speak and you’ll be mesmerised by her words.

She speaks yet your fall in love with her words, you will want her to talk all the time. You better watch out you negative people, because she’s on her way to turn you into a positive thing person.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you, just watch the space.